The Trouble With Love

The Trouble With Love

 Love is something that all want, but often it only ends up making us feel pain. Love hurts, just like the song says. We grow up, wanting adult relationships, filled with love and happiness. Sadly, it never quite turns out the way we want it to. Why must the sweetest of all nectars poison us so?

Love is something that has to be shown as much as it is given. Some love as friends, some love in a more intimate way. The worst thing to have happen is unrequited love. Whatever way we love absolutely must be given back, or it will drown us alive. It's as if we are a parent, a concerned mother or father, and when the person disregards our concern, it always hurts us. When the person realizes they have made the mistake that the person was worried about, they come back to you, expecting you to sooth them, and tell them everything is okay. Never do they seek to say the words, “I was wrong, and you were right.” It's one of the hardest things for anyone to say. Love, though, is blind, and we will automatically forgive them. This forgiveness follows no rules or obligations, and this is why love is so painful. 

 Do we need a reason to love? When it comes to brotherly and sisterly love, no, we should never need a reason. Yet when it comes to romantic love, ah, we should always have a good reason to love them. Love, as sad as it is, often happens with the state of physical attraction, and that is a shame, but is nonetheless often true. However, what happens afterwards, is a radical transformation that only the broken can avoid. We forge bonds, and that phsyical attraction, or whatever reason you were originally drawn to the person, becomes deeper, a more of an emotional bond. That emotional bond is the thing that makes love so darn painful.  Not many want to be abused, and lovers are often abusive to one another without meaning to be. The reason why lovers may argue or get angry at one another is because they don't have an open and honest level of communication with each other. Whatever way we communicate with our significant other, let it be be often and direct. Don't let your partner hurt, because it may just emotionally tear them in two.

We all come from different walks of life, and there is probably no “match made in heaven” when it comes to romantic partners. We are all different, sometimes to large degrees or smaller degrees, and it is a shame when people can't recognize this. I believe that everyone does at least one or more things good in life, and partners should always try to capitalize off of each others strengths. If they aren't building each other up, then partners will gradually and quickly wear each other down. Those who try to patch broken relationships often become torn and weary as it often leads to even more heartbreak. 

 If you are in love, you'll have to accept the inevitable pain. If you are able to bear the burden that has been placed on your back from your significant other, rejoice, as you two may be right for each other. Love is the strongest force when it is felt at its highest level. Don't worry, whatever pain you are feeling right now is only the fruits of a wonderful and giving tree that will one day give you shade and comfort, right when you need it. Ciao! 

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