Forgetting Painful Memories

Forgetting Painful Memories

We all have bad memories that we would prefer to forget. Each day these memories can plague us. No matter how hard we try, we always find these memories resurfacing. We fight against them, and sometimes these scars on the psyche can derail our current situation. They effect us so much that our past can be even more overwhelming than our lives today. Face it: when evil is done to us in the past it is often devastating. I do have good news for you: with practice, we can virtually stop the past from catching up to us again. 

When Does the Past Haunt Us?

The past comes back when we are in two states: we are in a similar situation to a past one, and then there is one that is even more critical, and that is when we compare our present to the past. We should never compare our present to the past, for it is unfair to your current situation. We are born that way, linking memories to our current lives. However, we realize in life we have no control over other people. They are not ghosts from the past, and whatever happens in life we must remember only one thing: we are alive. Breaking down everything into mere survival is crucial to live in the moment. One who lives in the moment will certainly live an exciting and meaningful future. Think about what you are grateful for and want to hold on to and I am sure that you will not only let go of the past, but also keep what you want to be your future. 


Eliminating Those Restless Ghosts of the Past

We are prone to remember painful memories of the past as mentioned. We refer to this as “trauma” or “traumatic events.” These are hard for anyone to forget and can plague us for an indefinate amount of time, be it a week or maybe even decades. That doesn’t mean we can’t find a way to let the past go, though. With careful care you can rid yourself of everything you don’t want to remember.

As odd as it may sound, there are a few ways we can let go of the past. One, we have to come to terms with the issue. We have to understand why things happened the way they did in the past. Basically, you need personal closure. It does not matter whos fault it was, as it won’t change the outcome. Two, we must realize that all things work to an outcome, may it be positive or negative. We are in our present because of our past. Yes, that’s right: we are where we are today because of the past. Is your current situatuon what you want it to be? You have your past to thank. Also, we must understand that the past woes you went through have made you stronger. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, as I understand.

Conclusion

Don't get hung up on the past. You are by far too precious to waste your time remembering those of the past that did not treasure you. You are a beautiful, unique human being, and no one can take that away from you. Look in the mirror, and don’t see the scars of the past: see the beautiful face that smiles when others see your face. You are worth it, and darn those who did not see that in the past. With careful thought and positive internal resolution you are sure to forget what hurts and embrace your current life and ultimately your bright future.

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