Boundaries

Boundaries

Boundaries are something that exist for every person alive, whether we like to admit it or not. One who respects boundaries is a gentleman or lady, while those who do not are abusive and cruel. Boundaries are needed for every successful relationship, be it with friends, families, strangers or even lovers. Some people fall into the awful habit if never setting boundaries, and they are the ones who are abused the most.

It's important to assert yourself, and sometimes it can be very hard with a person who flat out doesn't respect you. Envision it as a way of asking the person to treat you fairly, as you deserve. We aren't living in a world where macho pigs are our rulers. Rebuke them, and stand up for your given rights, as you are far too wonderful to be treated like the ground under trampling elephants. Don't let your relationships be dominated one personality, as both respect and love are two-way streets. We cannot take the abuse, and we must discover ways of setting boundaries in a constructive fashion. Do not ever be aggressive towards your aggressor, as this will make you no better than them, and will only result onto more manipulation and arguments.

We must identify when people are not respecting our boundaries. Body space is a physical one, albeit it does not exist the same as when it is with a lover. Often those who are controlling will be very commanding and quick to anger when confronted. Boundaries can be as extreme as don't hurt me or as subtle as ask me about my feelings and be sensitive towards them. If the person in question truly loves you then they will comply.

 A person who abuses you and walks all over you sees you as an object to justify their means. No one can honestly be taken advantage of and deal with on a healthy psychological level. The torment to the mind and body leaves scars on our psyche that take a lot of time to manage in even a semi-healthy way. Why sacrifice your heart and soul for someone who will never treat you as they should? You are a rose, a wild flower, a tree blowing in the wind. You are fragile, and can be gone tomorrow. We are too transient to waste our time on scar-after-scar in the making. Do not be fooled: someone who wishes to control you will never love you. Not ever.

Breaking the Control

As a person living in this broken world we cling to what is comfortable and convenient to us. Often we will settle for worse as long as there is some sort of ease or familiarity. I urge you to be vigilant, always wanting only the best. You'll only find one best friend and soul mate, so test all of the spirits, be it from the ground, the air, or our very own home. When boundaries do not exist in a home environment a war is always on the horizon. It hurts when the people who supposedly love treat us like old shoes and discarded clothes so be sure to notice the signs. Fight for the respect and love we yearn for and ultimately need. Plants need care and light to grow, and you do too.

Conclusion

It surprises me when people keep abusive family, friends, and lovers in their life. Anyone who enjoys the abuse is not correct mentally. I know how hard it is, but a person will be insecure and anxious every moment they aren't given respect and proper boundaries. You'll either here your persecutor, yourself, or both you and the enemy you used to be drawn to. Light attracts moths as do flames, so don't be burnt by the scathing touch of those who do not adhere to your boundaries. Those who hurt you will continue to control and dominate you, forcing you to sacrifice yourself for their sick and selfish desires.

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